From abullwin@mv.us.adobe.comSat Jan 13 10:21:41 1996 Date: Fri, 12 Jan 96 11:05:45 PST From: abullwin@mv.us.adobe.com To: hmp@infoseek.com, rage1@ix.netcom.com, "Mark A. Cartwright" , aldenBH@aol.com, jcole@dataquest.com, hudspeth@nando.net, David M Richoux , ANNE LATASTE , Stephen and Grace Harris , Rafael DeSoto , Karen_Hammerness@pz.harvard.edu, mudhoney@apple.com, scott@ictv.com, Alan Turnbaugh , TimE , KATHRYN@CADENCE.COM, JHSU@AppleLink.Apple.COM, faberge@aol.com, stlee@netcom.com, alexis_koen@taligent.com, cyronwode@aol.com, fburke@ccnet.com, wabbot@megatest.com, Kevin Johnston , zalman@macromedia.com, Larry Weissenborn , BULLY@ix.netcom.com, JGHIII@apple.com, HAFER@NEWTON.APPLE.COM, Gonzo@pure.com, ms.inkwell@aol.com, blaise@base.com, crash@cygnus.com, Ned Young , TEEGEE1@aol.com, Martin_Alintuck@yr.com, ermine@netscape.com, arian@best.com, Martha Weeks , lindes@sgi.com, dda@zoom.com, monk@tq.com, spec.it@aol.com, Bob Gunn , Joel Hornbeck* , mprice@mv.us.adobe.com, khopwood@macromedia.com, sleepn.in@aol.com, "Bullwinkle, Michelle" , KIRKIAML8@aol.com, GSLLBurke@aol.com, burns@lsil.com, Digby Christian Subject: Humorous look at Sibling Rivalry Begin forwarded message: Subject: Humorous look at Sibling Rivalry I am an only child, but the father of two. Having no first-hand experience with sibling rivalry, my wife picked up a book called "Siblings Without Rivalry" by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. This is a good book about sibling rivalry about how parents can manage this inevitable interaction. Below is an excerpt from the book to put sibling rivalry in perspective and try to explain the reactions siblings often show towards eachother. Apologies in advance for the somewhat sexist positioning, but it works either way. Still, I enjoyed the analogy. . . Imagine that your spouse puts an arm around you and says, "Honey, I love you so much, and you're so wonderful that I've decided to have another wife just like you. " When the new wife finally arrives, you see that she's very young and kind of cute. When the three of you are out together, people say hello to you politely, but exclaim ecstatically over the newcomer. "Isn't she adorable!Hello sweetheart. . . You are precious!" Then they turn to you and ask, "How do you like the new wife?" The new wife needs clothing. Your husband goes into your closet, takes some of your sweaters and pants and gives them to her. When you protest, he points out that since you've put on a little weight, your clothes are too tight on you and they'll fit her perfectly. The new wife is maturing rapidly. Every day she seems smarter and more competent. One afternoon as you're struggling to figure out the directions on the new computer your husband bought you, she bursts into the room and says, "Oooh, can I use it?I know how. " When you tell her she can't use it, she runs crying to your husband. Moments later she returns with him. Her face is tear- stained and she has his arm around her. He says to you, "What would be the harm in letting her have a turn? Why can't you share?" One day you find your husband and the new wife laying on the bed together. He's tickling her and she's giggling. Suddenly the phone rings and he answers it. Afterwards, he tells you that something important has come up and he must leave immediately. He asks you to stay home with the new wife and make sure she's all right. So, how were YOUR reactions?